Stephanie Coontz : (4) " Valentine’s Day is a perfect time to reject the idea that the ideal man is taller, richer, more knowledgeable, more renowned, or more powerful. " - Stephanie Coontz " In my work as a historian and in my relationships as a friend, teacher, wife, and mother, I have come to think that the most useful way to understand the past and make it work for you is to look at the trade-offs and contradictions that, however deeply buried, can be uncovered in every memory, good or bad. " - Stephanie Coontz " Americans are right to believe the American Dream is fading. But that dream only became a possibility for white men as a result of the labor struggles and reforms of the New Deal, and it began to extend to minorities and women only after the civil rights and women’s movements of the 1960s and 1970s. " - Stephanie Coontz " Marriage is no longer the only place where people make major life transitions and decisions, enter into commitments, or incur obligations. " - Stephanie Coontz