Jessica Valenti : (2) " I’ve seen straight, partnered women explain their decision to stay at home by noting that childcare would have taken too much out of their paycheck – as if this cost was just theirs to bear! " - Jessica Valenti " The widely held belief that the heterosexual nuclear family is best for children has long been used as a smoke screen for homophobia and as a talking point to quash marriage-equality efforts. " - Jessica Valenti