Alain de Botton : (12) " I assemble my ideas in pieces on a computer file, then gradually find a place for them on a piece of scaffolding I erect. " - Alain de Botton " Love is something that we need to learn. " - Alain de Botton " Often we think love is a feeling: that you spontaneously experience it. " - Alain de Botton " There is militaristic-hegemonic-plutocratic side of the U.S. which is getting out of hand and threatens to corrupt the whole republic. I remain a deeply concerned, committed admirer, but also a very worried one. " - Alain de Botton " To a shameful extent, the charm of marriage boils down to how unpleasant it is to be alone. " - Alain de Botton " The essential argument in the book, ‘Art as Therapy,’ is that art enjoys such financial and cultural prestige that it’s easy to forget the confusion that persists about what it’s really for. " - Alain de Botton " As in all areas, we can improve how good we are at loving another person. " - Alain de Botton " It’s great to get an ‘F’, but you also want to give the sense that there’s something outside achievement. I’ve seen a lot of so-called high-achievers who don’t feel they’ve achieved much. " - Alain de Botton " Therapy and counseling can do wonderful things for people. But they have emerged so far as what are sometimes called ‘cottage industries’ – that is, as individuals or small groups offering generally quite expensive services to a few clients. " - Alain de Botton " Parent and child may both love, but – unbeknown to the child – each party is on a different end of the axis. This is why, in adulthood, when we first long for ‘love’, what we mean is that we want to ‘be loved’ as we were once loved by a parent. " - Alain de Botton